You're not always in control, Accept it.

First off, let me start by saying I’m so sorry I’ve been MIA. These last few months have been hectic to say the least. I graduated nursing school, moved, studied for and passed my Nclex, started working as a new nurse, and am currently planning another move out of STATE!

So saying I have been busy is an understatement, and I can’t wait to catch you guys up on all of the lessons I’ve learned. This year I have so many exciting things planned for my blog, I can’t wait to share them with you guys. I have of course made it a resolution to get back to blogging and become more consistent.

Now onto the topic, over the last few months, it’s safe to say I have been put to the test, although I have previously listed some of my accomplishments. Don’t be mistaken to think it was all easy, because as is life when you move a few paces forward It seems like there’s always a few steps back (unless that’s just me).

First let’s start with my move, although I was prepping a move it expectantly got moved up to the same days as my NCLEX test day. To say that I was frustrated puts it lightly, not to mention I was already stressed and nervous about my exam. I just remember being so angry and feeling like the universe was moving against me. Some may say that’s a bit dramatic but with all of the other things I had going on it was how I felt. So here I am in full-blown panic mode, then it hits me like a brick. What I am upset about? I’m already planning to move, I just need to reschedule the move-in date and boom, it’s done. Yes it’s inconvenient, and yes it stretches my already thin budget but at the end of the day, why am I really this upset.

What it ultimately boiled down to was control, or rather my lack thereof. The fact that my move out was pushed up unexpectedly, and I had no say. It made me feel out of control, it bothered me, and I mean truly bothered me. After explaining this to a dear friend of mine, they posed this question, “do you get like this every time you feel like something isn’t in your control?” I sat back and thought for a second, as much as I wanted to say no, it wouldn’t have been the truth. I mean don’t get me wrong, I don’t have full-blown meltdowns when I can’t control everything and anything (I’m not that much of a control freak). But the important things, yea it does cause a bit of anxiety for me.

So I had a decision to make, either get upset like I’ve done many times before when something beyond my control. Or let it go and handle what is in my control. So if you’re anything like me, that’s easier said then done so I had to actually put some work into this. Here are a few ways I STILL use to manage my anxiety when things are out of my control;

  1. Acceptance, meaning come to terms that you can’t control the issue.
  2. Focus on what you can control, use this time to plan what you can.
  3. It’s ok to freak, just don’t dwell.
  4. Let it GO!

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude”- Maya Angelou.

-Xoxo T

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